In
my last post, I talked about how New Year's Day is an opportunity to
reflect on the glory and mercy of God and to ponder how we might
spend the time He has given us in this new year. At this time, many
people start out the year telling a great big fat lie called a “new
year's resolution.” I call it a lie because the failure rate for
these resolutions is staggeringly high. Some statistics that I've
read say that only 12 percent of the people who make a resolution ever
reach their goal. One third fail before the end of January. Twenty
percent fail in the first week!
With
so few people actually keeping their resolutions, there has been much
discussion about whether or not Christians should even make
resolutions. I have my own opinion about this. First, resolutions
tend to be things that most people realize they should be doing
already. If there is something worthwhile that you should be doing,
why not take the opportunity of the New Year to simply do it?
Secondly, I believe that many of reasons we fail to keep our
resolutions are also the reasons we struggle in so many areas of our
spiritual lives. If we examine the reasons why we fail to keep our
resolutions, it may help improve our walk with Christ. For these
reasons, I see nothing necessarily wrong with a resolution and
believe there is actually value in examining why we fail when we make
them.
The
Bible is certainly the best judge of human nature. From Scriptures,
I believe I have identified at least five reasons why people do not
keep their resolutions.
I.
We
don't take our oaths seriously
Matthew 5:33-37 Again, ye have heard that it hath been said by them of old time, Thou shalt not forswear thyself, but shalt perform unto the Lord thine oaths: But I say unto you, Swear not at all; neither by heaven; for it is God's throne: Nor by the earth; for it is his footstool: neither by Jerusalem; for it is the city of the great King. Neither shalt thou swear by thy head, because thou canst not make one hair white or black. But let your communication be, Yea, yea; Nay, nay: for whatsoever is more than these cometh of evil.
Jesus
talked about the foolishness of making empty oaths. A person might
say that he swears by heaven but would still not keep his word.
Today, we sometimes swear on a Bible. Jesus reminded us that these
oaths are not frivolous. The heaven and earth on not trivial things
that we might vainly invoke to add weight to our promise. Instead,
we should simply mean what we say. If you say “yes” then mean
yes. If you say “no” then mean no.
Perhaps
it might benefit people to look up the definition of “resolution.”
You are resolving yourself to do something. If you
abandon your goal in the first week, it's not very likely you were
ever very resolute about it.
If you
make a resolution, take it seriously.
II.
We don't count the cost
Luke 14:28-30 For which of you, intending to build a tower, sitteth not down first, and counteth the cost, whether he have sufficient to finish it? Lest haply, after he hath laid the foundation, and is not able to finish it, all that behold it begin to mock him, Saying, This man began to build, and was not able to finish.
Sometimes
we resolve to do something without fully realizing what all will be
involved in keeping it. Some people, for example, might resolve to
save 10% of their paycheck every time they get paid. That sounds
like a great idea but they continue spending money the way they
always have. Before they get their next paycheck, they realize
they've spent all of their money and immediately have to dip into
their savings. Before starting their resolution, they should have
planned what they will give up in order to make their resolution
possible.
Included
in this category is the vague resolution. Someone might resolve to
“be a better person.” Exactly how is that measured? Without
some quantitative or measurable standard, one cannot tell if he is
keeping his resolution. He could just as vaguely justify that he has
- “Well, I feel like I haven't yelled at my kids as much.”
III.
We have unrealistic expectations
Some
people believe that if they keep their resolution, the world will
suddenly become a better place. It's as though they feel if they
lost 30 pounds, they would suddenly feel like a teenager again. They
feel like if they could save money, then they could travel, have nice
things, and pay off their mortgage in a year.
Jesus said, (John 16:33) These things I have spoken unto you, that in me ye might have peace. In the world ye shall have tribulation: but be of good cheer; I have overcome the world.
The
old saying is that life is strife. The world will not suddenly
become a paradise because you have lost 10 pounds. The things that
added stress to your life will still be there. If what you have
resolved is worthwhile, don't be discouraged if it doesn't create the
Utopia you had imagined.
IV.
We labor in the flesh
Isaiah 64:6 But we are all as an unclean thing, and all our righteousnesses are as filthy rags; and we all do fade as a leaf; and our iniquities, like the wind, have taken us away.
I've written about Isaiah 64:6 before. Rags are not necessarily worthless. We use them for many things like cleaning. But the Bible says our righteousness is like
filthy rags. A filthy rage really is worthless. If
you tried to clean off your hands with a filthy rag, you will simply
get your hands dirtier.
Any
attempt we make to clean up our act is doomed to fail if we try to do
it on our own. We are simply trying to clean ourselves up with our
own righteousness – our own dirty rags. If we're pursuing
something worthwhile, we shouldn't rely only on our own abilities to
accomplish it. Ask the Lord for strength and guidance.
V.
We have misguided motives
James 4:3 Ye ask, and receive not, because ye ask amiss, that ye may consume it upon your lusts.
When
you make a resolution, ask yourself why you want it. Why might we
want to lose weight, for example? Is it out of simple vanity? If
so, the God might not be interested in helping us keeping our
resolution. If we make
a commitment to do something that's not really worthwhile, we're
certainly going to be more apt to abandon it.
A
lot of our resolutions center around the material. That doesn't
automatically make them bad but they're not necessarily worthwhile
either. Consider if your resolution is truly important. Besides the
usual resolutions to lose weight, go to the gym, quit smoking, save
money, and payoff bills, consider some of these resolutions:
- I resolve to attend church every week this year
- I resolve to tithe
- I resolve to read the Bible all the way through this year
- I resolve to share the gospel with at least one person per month this year
- I resolve to lead someone to Christ this year
In
conclusion
There's
a danger in associating our resolutions with the New Year. If we
have planned since November that we would lose weight in the New
Year, it means we probably ate like a pig since Thanksgiving. Also,
if we fail, there is an attitude of, “Oh well, maybe I'll try again
next year.” If you fail then just pick yourself up, dust yourself
off, and try again.
If
you make a resolution, take it seriously, count the cost, have
realistic expectations, pray for guidance, and examine your motives.
There's no need to wait to do better. Just do it.
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